Tweetwatching Gone Bad

Primary Analysis
In my research on finding the outcomes of “tweetwatching” on Twitter and how it effects relationships, I will be using the Social Network Twitter as my main source for my mass media and focusing on Internet Surveillance as my type of surveillance. Surveillance plays a key role in mass media. When one is using a mass media, they should think of surveillance and how that individual and other users use it to monitor the things that have been posted by other individuals.
I will be focusing on three different topics that concern "tweetwatching." And for security reasons, the names have been changed for their protection. The three main groups of people that I will be focusing my study on will be: two old best friends Alexis and Elissa, a young couple in a relationship together Betsy and Ramon , and a relationship between a mother and her son Danielle and Kalil.
When looking at the two old best friends, my two people of interest are Alexa and Ebony. In this particular case, the two girls were having boy trouble with apparently the same guy, and Elissa got jealous and envied Alexa when the boy no longer wanted to make relations with her. They took it to Twitter, and never really mentioned the person, but it was obvious that when they did tweet, they were talking about the other person. Alexa said some very profound statements like “somebody get this dumb hoe of my TL” or “you just mad because nobody wanted your dumb ass.” And in response, Elissa would say things like, “I bet you throw those hands though” and “that’s why your so called ‘man’ been with the whole #GSU16.” Pretty much they were just stating how they really feel without having to really confront that person by mentioning them. But later Alexis tweeted without mentioning Elissa “how ignorant and immature, at least i realized i was wrong . #growup i know how to be the bigger person and apologize. but ok , you got it. Laughs. Now on to the important things..” and in reply Elissa said “Baby, stop while you ahead because I owe you a nice lil convo anyway. Don't let Twitter write you a check yo lil broke ass can't cash. Aw! You already quitting on me?! Lemme take that off. I can ruin this child.” And even though these girls aren’t really talking to each other, and after talking with both of them are no longer friends, they can’t seem to keep each other names out of their own mouths, constantly talking mess about one another.
In my second case, I wanted to look at a young couple, Betsy and Ramon, who was having relationship problems and took all their issues and put it on Twitter. The girl, Betsy, was getting upset with Ramon, because he would talk to other girls on Twitter and take pictures on Instagram with other females, and she didn’t like it. She would literally go through his tweets and pictures and see who he was talking with that day, just so she could start some trouble with him. She just wanted to argue with him to the point where he would stop it, and realize that he was all hers, and he would hopefully never do it again, but he always seemed to talk to other girls, not in a flirtatious way, but just out of casual conversation. Sometimes she would mention him, but most times it was her just checking his tweets and make a side comment on her page. Ramon would say things like, “HEY BOO!” or “Happy Birthday to the beautiful…” and Betsy would really feel some type of way about his tweets. In response, Betsy would state things like, “she’s actually ugly, but I’m over here though” and “he knows where home is. No one cares for side chicks anyways” when in reality she really did care. And even on Instagram, she would go like all his pictures and comment on them so other girls would know that he belongs to her. Ramon was a very outgoing person and literally had enough of Betsy always confronting him over flirting with other girls and cheating. They’re not together anymore, but they are still friends.
And in my last scenario, I would like to look at a relationship between a mother and her son, Danielle and Kalil. In this scenario, the mother, who by the way had over 200 followers, but followed back less than 10% of her followers, would go through her sons tweets, who was actually very popular on Twitter and would tweet a lot more than his mother, and comment on some of his various tweets on Twitter. Rather it be from, not wanting to go to class one day to talking about the game, his mother would comment on her sons tweets, either back on Twitter or would call him on his cellphone. This made him a lot more aware of what he tweeted since his mother was constantly watching, but that didn’t stop him from tweeting altogether just because his mother was watching. And it’s not like he was mentioning her on Twitter or talking about her, he would just say random things and his mother would comment. Kalil would say things like, “ Not going to Fight Night tonight. Last week was dead” or “I'm so tired. Stayed up late then got up early. And had basketball this morning.” And his mother, who really doesn’t get on Twiiter according to Kalil, would have remarks like “Good! Now you can finish your homework” and “Well going to bed usually helps with being exhausted. Lol. Love You” And a lot of times he would just laugh, because his mother was using social networks, but it sometimes annoyed him that apparently she would go through his tweets later in the night or even the next day and comment on some of his tweets. But in reality, it could just be that since she is only following a few people, who don’t tweet very often, that his tweet was at the top or near the top of the page making it easier to see. He’s told his mother about it, but she’s more nonchalant about it since she really doesn’t use it like that. But their relationship is still strong, despite these events, and still talk to each other.
"Tweetwatching" is not a bad thing, but it's not necessarily a good thing. A lot of times, "tweetwatching" can make you see some things that you didn't really want to see and lead to many assumptions and unnecessary questions. And the worst times, is when a user assumes that another is talking about them, and then they're really not, this also leads to many problems as well. This can sometimes lead to relationship problems, as shown above. But sometimes it can be used as a good thing, because you have the evidence was indeed talking about you, and could confront them about it, if that be the case.

So What
This topic on, "What are the outcomes of “tweetwatching” and how does it effect relationships?," is relevant to any Twitter user in general, or furthermore, anybody using a social medium to connect to other users across the nation. However, my main concern is looking at people with Twitter accounts, but also comparing to other social networks like Facebook and Instagram, that are in relationships. This could really be any type of relationship ranging from just regular friends, enemies, boyfriends and girlfriends, to even parental relationships with their children; because I feel like regardless of your relationships status we still “tweetwatch”, though we may not admit it, our followers to see what they really have to say. My topic doesn’t solely pertain to one age group or race, considering that so many diverse people use these, even from little children to older adults.
I’ve realized that sometimes the comments or pictures we post may be only intended for certain people or just our friends to see, but sometimes you have situations where other people can “retweet”, sharing the comment with their followers, making more people aware then what have may been attended. And when random people, that weren’t originally apart of the conversation and was unaware of what was going on, start getting into the middle of the conversation, they tend to be confused and ask the original users questions to catch up making even more people that follow them aware of what’s going on. This sometimes leads to relationships tearing apart, as examples will be provided later. But this is usually the case when users don’t mention or tag other users in the post, and the other individual finds out later by either “tweetwatching” or by other users sharing the post.
Sometimes we don’t even realize that we’re “tweetwatching” someone, because it’s kind of been giving a bad name as if you’ve been stalking someone, which in actuality is true, but maybe not to full out stalking, just in cyberspace. And no one wants to admit that they’ve so called “stalking” someone, but yet we covertly do it anyways. I’m not saying that social networks are bad, but once you post things on your page, there are people that wait for what you have to say, and you may not even be aware of it. So in all, to everyone using social networks as a medium to communicate to other users, need to just be careful of what they say and who they say it to, whether it is specially directed to a group/person or not, because that someone who you may not have not want to see that post, could just probably see it and react positively, but sometimes those reactions can end up negatively, effecting relationships.

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